Earlier this week, I was talking with a former client who asked how my holidays were going so far. I thought for a moment and said, The quality of my holiday always depends on what’s happening in my life at the time. This year, it’s all about keeping things simple and quiet.

“Well, that statement really sums up the best way to approach the holidays, doesn’t it?” my client responded. “Rather than having all these expectations based on our history, other people, or on traditions, it makes sense to adapt our holiday plans to what’s happening in our lives right now.”

Sounds obvious, but it’s so easy to forget. Show up calmly for the life unfolding before you is the mantra I hold dear, and there’s no better time to use it than during the holidays. Whether you’re feeling happy and social, sad and more withdrawn, fed up and exhausted, or ready to simply ride this one out, let the reality of your present circumstances lead the way. As we approach the last days of the year, you get to decide the version of the holidays that will serve you and your family best.

I’m spending this holiday in search of moments filled with wonder and delight. Here’s one from yesterday afternoon:

It’s pretty hard to feel anything but joy when looking at those little faces.

This year, may your holidays be exactly what you need most, and may you have the presence of mind to let it be so.

Love,

Cheryl