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Week 49 – The Second Experiment: Getting to know you


News Alert! I just found out (today, in fact), that my publisher, Hay House, has made advance copies of my new book, “The Art of Extreme Self Care: Transform Your Life One Month at a Time,” available for purchase now from your favorite online stores! The 8″x8″ hardcover book is beautifully designed as a special gift for yourself and those you love, and I can’t wait for you to see it. There are twelve chapters, each intended to give you one way of practicing extreme self care per month. It’s a perfect New Year’s book for those of you in Life Makeover Groups, and with chapters like “Let Me Disappoint You,” “You’re So Sensitive,” “Take Your Hands Off the Wheel,” and “End the Legacy of Deprivation,” it’s sure to challenge you to radically upgrade your life. You can see it (and find links to order), here.

In mid January, Hay House is launching a new movie called, “From Ambition to Meaning” starring Wayne Dyer and a cast of talented actors. I’ve had the chance to preview this film and it’s wonderful — entertaining, meaningful, and provocative in its message. It’s a film that appeals to a wide audience – moms and dads, overworked employees, artists, and anyone questioning the greater meaning of his or her life. To see shots from the movie and to listen to the theme song, click here. Be forewarned: the song is catchy :).

Have a wonderful week…



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Topic of the Week

The Second Experiment

“Find your true path. It’s so easy to become someone we

don’t want to be, without even realizing it’s happening.”

–Bernie Siegel, MD

Last March, I offered you an experiment designed to help you uncover valuable information about yourself and the gifts and talents you may be meant to share with others. I asked you to put this information away until the end of the year, when I offered a “part two” to the experiment.

This week’s newsletter fulfills that promise. First, reread the earlier newsletter below. Then, follow the “Take Action Challenge” to learn more about yourself. If you didn’t participate in the experiment, don’t worry. These exercises are a perfect year-end planning tool. Here we go…

From March:

While doing research for The Unmistakable Touch of Grace, I found several exercises in an old journal that I used to help me explore my life’s purpose. I was shocked to find that 80% of my answers were directly related to what I do today. At the time that I completed these exercises I was twenty-five years old and struggling to figure out what I wanted to be when I grew up. As I read through the entries it was obvious that, in retrospect, I knew more about myself and what I was meant to do than I realized at the time.

There’s something about keeping a journal or writing private thoughts in a notebook that activates our inner wisdom. While your entries might seem like random thoughts or ideas, often they contain vital information about who you are and what you’ve come here to do.

This week I thought we’d try an experiment. Below are some exercises for you to complete in a journal or notebook. Once you’ve finished them, I want you to tuck this information away until the end of the year. In December, I’ll ask you to retrieve it in order to complete part two of this experiment.

Think of this assignment as a special gift to yourself. Taking time out of your busy life to reflect on who you are and what you want is one of the key ways that we influence the direction of our lives. To make it easier, break the exercise into five parts and complete one part a day over the next week. Work on it during your lunch hour or while the kids are at school. When we get to part two in December, you’ll be glad you made the investment in yourself.

Once you complete these exercises follow the “Take Action Challenge” below to complete part two of the experiment. Enjoy!

1. Finish the following sentence stems with at least ten answers for each one:

I am

I will not

I would like

I will I love

I hate

2. What advice would you give yourself at this time in your life? (fill at least one page)

3. Imagine you were interviewing you and answer the following questions:

What three major choices brought you to this point in your life?

Looking back, what three things do you wish you had tried?

If you had to choose an object that represented your future, what would it be?

If you had to choose an object that represented your past, what would it be?

What tasks or assignments would you say you’ve been given in your life so far?

4. Complete the following four exercises:

List three internal changes you’ll need to make to live a more meaningful life.

List three external changes you’ll need to make to live a more meaningful life.

List three positive qualities that you feel proud of possessing.

List three qualities that you’d like to develop.

5. If you could try five new jobs over the next year what would they be?

Once you’ve completed this assignment, read on to the “Take Action Challenge” for part two of the experiment.

Take Action Challenge

To complete part two of this experiment, read through your answers to the exercises above and, using your journal, take time to answer the following questions:

What themes or patterns do you see?

Which answers feel right, but scary?

What life lessons have you needed to work through?

If you were meant to teach others three things, what would they be?

How is “who” you are, related to “what” you might offer others?

What one theme best reflects your life lesson thus far?

What have you learned about yourself since you completed the first experiment?

What advice would you give yourself now?

Using the first and second person, write at least one page in your journal completing each of these two sentence stems:

When I read through my answers, I notice that I ___

When I read through the answers, I notice that (your name) ___

Finally, what are three specific action steps you need to take to do something with what you’ve learned from the experiments? Challenge yourself to take these steps before the New Year!

Life Makeover For The Year 2008 (sm) is written and produced by Cheryl Richardson. If you have any questions or comments, or for reprint permission of this newsletter, please email:  Copyright 1999-2008. Cheryl Richardson, P.O. Box 13, Newburyport, MA 01950. All rights reserved.